Exercising Patience is Critical
Not many people are really good at exercising patience. You should know this before you start beating yourself up for all the mistakes you're making after your ex dumped you. With all the emotions that are churning around inside you, one of the last things you're going to be able to get a handle on is patience.
However, if you truly want to make progress and eventually convince your ex to come back to you, you're going to have to exercise a little self-control. If you're the type of person who needs instant results and can't wait for an outcome that may or may not materialize, then the chances of getting your ex back are slim.
Your game plan most certainly should involve a slow, calculated plan of attack which will involve creating attraction and desire once more. This is certainly not going to come instantly. And, really, why would it? After all, they dumped you and it likely wasn't a spur of the moment decision. You can bet that your ex went through great pains in order to come to the decision to end the relationship.
If you feel you're making all the wrong moves and you're not sure where to turn, there's a good chance that you're simply being a little too anxious. There is no way in the world you’re going to convince your ex to change their mind quickly. You can't force someone to start thinking a certain way - or feeling a certain way. This is got to come naturally. As a result, any progress you make is going to be slow and steady. The best way to completely ruin this is by being impatient and trying to force the situation.
If you're currently in the middle of a bad situation where you simply can't stop contacting your ex, chances are your lack of patience is responsible. The first thing you should do is completely cut off all contact, find alternate activities to keep your mind off the breakup, and create a methodical and deliberate plan to get your ex back. Anything has got to be better than harassing them to the point where they simply wind up detesting you.